Sharing a dorm room with a total stranger is similar to a marriage. And just like a marriage it takes compromise and consideration to get along.
The main issues in rooming with someone will usually be noise levels, cleanliness, and third party guests. Here’s where the consideration part comes in…
Assume that the other person likes their noise level at library standard, unless otherwise stated. Keep your alarm clock, music, and phone chatter to a low level when your roommate is around. (You can always crank up the noise when they leave!)
If you have an alarm clock, make sure to keep the ringer low and cut it short when it rings. Don’t hit the snooze button 3 times in a row so you can catch a few more winks. The alarm clock is for you not your dorm mate.
Let’s go there.
If you’re used to having a maid (mom), then now’s the time to start picking up after yourself and learning how to live in a tidy manner.
Do not leave your personal items scattered around, as it leaves the room with an unappealing appearance. Food should never be left out as it can cause odors and bug problems.
Not to mention that it’s bad chi in your sleeping environment.
On the contrary, a clean room gives you a serene space to assist in studying and concentration.
Ok. The original agreement was that the dorm was for you and your dorm mate- nobody else. Keep visitors to a minimum, and if possible, try to arrange for friends to come by when your dorm mate is not around.
Never let your guest touch or snoop in your dorm mate’s stuff. That is a big no-no! It’s important to respect your dorm mate’s boundaries, as you would want the same consideration.
To prevent potential problems like hurt feelings, grudges, or disputes, it may be a good idea to draw up a request list, or set of rules.
You and your dorm mate can list your pet peeves, and then discuss how each issue can be worked out. This little step could prevent future problems.
“To be or not to be…”
…best friends, that is.
When you live with a dorm mate, you may spend an average of about 14 hours with that one person: three to six waking hours, plus about eight hours spent sleeping in the same room. (Assuming you get 8 hours of sleep each night.)
That’s a lot of togetherness. Human beings need their space, and a good formula for two dorm mates sharing the same space together is to allow for a certain amount of distance, “me” time.
Remember to keep your eye on the ball, and in this case the goal is keeping the peace and providing the best environment for studying and recuperating from tough exams. Remember that, and things should be smooth sailing for a productive semester.
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